Weird Things All Couples Fight About

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard. As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (then) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them; but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means. Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.”


Hi Dearies

Today I am going to write about something different from norm about something that we married ladies go through every single day...Yes...You are right, it would be a medical miracle if both remain silent and agree on something even once...

There will always be a moment when we ladies get pissed off when they dont understand what we are getting at and of course as ladies what we say is always RIGHT!! hahaha well its the truth isnt it :)

Men sometimes dont think that quickly or smartly as women do.. well most of the time. Sometimes, they are selfish and dont think if its suitable for everyone in the family. When we suggest something, all they do is just disagree and thats where everything goes haywire...

So, as usual, Ladies, we are the responsible ones to manage the situation maturely. We although fight to be equal, obviously we are the weaker sex...but when it comes to family we are the dominant ones and the most responsible. Including the child we gave birth to, we have to also babysit our husbands who are the most difficult child God has given us to bear our entire life.

To make things worse, we have to endure their nonsense, the kids nonsense, the family peer pressure, the society pressure, etc, yes its a tough job alright! Women are meant to fight not with their husbands but for their happiness in life...Not by opposing the husbands but by thinking of ways to live by it and succeed in holding the family together...Succeed in making the husband to trust in her and believe in her...

For love marriages, both would have some mutual understandings before their marriages..yet i hear they do fight and things get too far and they separate ways. I am still thinking as to why this happens if they truly loved each other nothing should separate them...

As for arranged marriages, its a tough journey. Its a long process...No matter how long you have lived together, you would probably still not understand your husband completely and vice versa. There would still be differences that you still cant get things together. But as women, Allah has given us this life to test us and our patience. At least thats what I think. This is to test how strong, patient and clever we are to face problems in our life. In my opinion, it takes a minimum of 10 years of marriage to settle down and to understand about our partner. We are able to gauge his plus and minuses. We know when to talk and when not to. I am not saying that we should agree to everything he blindly says, but there is a much subtle way of making him understand. We just have to work our magic in a way that we dont lose anything on both sides....This is where we have to be equal...

There are lots to say about this...each problem has a different solution and different problems have different loses..Its how we balance our life and problems together so its a win win for both partners as well. 

All we ever want in our life is to be HAPPY. We should spend our time thinking of ways to achieve that and not fighting. Its OK to give in. Not always, but fighting is never the solution. We have to be quiet at times, just be quiet...talking and fighting back makes things worse...We can always go back to it later when everything has settled down in another mood...

In my experience so far, I have decided not to be a wife to my husband! Dont be shocked. What i meant was, I have decided to be a good friend to my husband. Being friends, solves many things. Think of it that way and you will be happy. Trust me. Me and my husband have gone through so much in life so far, but to move on further, i made a decision that being friends with him will only make my life easier. We now joke a lot but we also do fight, but we know how to manage the situation. We tend to take things easily or least we try to. We both certainly are not perfect and we certainly know each others flaws and weaknesses.

Men do have emotions and they do melt. We have to know how and when to use that to achieve what we want...It takes time. We have to be patient. Dont make decisions when you are angry coz that is when we make the wrong ones. Let it pass and take things slow.

Good Luck my ladies, love your family and be patient...You will always get what you wish for and Allah is there to watch over you. Keep on praying for light my dear ladies. Dont make hasty decisions. 

Love 

B.H